#understand THAT

[arlovegood]

Are the Bridgerton showrunners going to push the every Bridgerton male is a playboy every season (and the love triangle thing too, don't think I didn't notice that miss Rhimes)? I don't know if the rumors of Colin coming back a rake in S3 are true, but if they are I don't understand the point of having made him a virgin in S1, he was not in the books and if that change wasn't to make both him and Pen virgins then what was the point? To make him seen less responsible in the eyes of Anthony? (and let's not even talk about the fact that to think that not going to brothels or having a mistress is being less responsible is garbage). I know that canonically some of the male leads are rakes, but if they changed the show to make Colin not one then why change that in his season but NOT with Penelope? I mean, they literally alluded in the series that Edmund was a rake when is CANON in the books that he had never done anything before Violet? If it goes like this they'll make Phillip (a man that canonically hasn't slept with anyone in 10 years since that one awful time with his wife) a playboy.

I feel like I went on a rant but I guess it comes from my recent found frustration and growing dislike of the "all male leads have to be playboys" trope in books and series, plus the fact that is not even them just being playboys, is the fact that we're constantly reminded of that. Like, I don't wanna be constantly blasted in the face with the fact that he has slept with half the world population when I'm supposed to be following his love story with this one person. It's not that the leads have to be virgins (although I'll be honest, would love more of this trope), is that I don't see the necessity of reminding the audience all the time of what is the ginormous body count of this supposed sex god, like....okay, what does it matter to his romance with the one he's gonna end up with? Do you need to focus on his past and how he sleep with this one and that one so much while you're trying to sell a romance with another person to me?

anyway, sorry for the rant but I spiraled this evening and this is the best place to let go of my thoughts.

always reminding that these are my opinions, I'm not imposing them on anyone and therefor do not wish (or deserve) to be attacked for it if you don't agree.

[shame-kink]

dungeon meshi spoilers specifically for something the fandom is WAY WAYYYY TOO CASUAL about revealing everywhere but i still can’t in good conscience leave unmarked;

person who only saw dungeon meshi fanart and assumed chimera falin was like… a tragic monster girl holding back her violence for the sake of love or whatever rather than like. a monster with the body and meat and technically ‘soul’ of a tragic girl in her but still like. 90% monster meat so shes basically just a big violent dog.

[disorganizedkitten]

I'm so excited to finish my secret project. It's going to be such a mess and I'm going to get the biggest kudos email.

And hopefully many comments? Can never predict the comments.

But man do I want the comments.

[missabnormal]

imagine being a Korean person awake at like one in the morning trying to accept that the president of South Korea actually just tried to go full dictatorship by way of an emergency martial law because he was basically having a political temper tantrum and every agency and corporation in the country is all hands on deck, code red mode on everything and the military is being deployed and then the assembly revokes the martial law and then the president is like lol nevermind and now you have to get ready to work at your shitty job on a Wednesday

[robyn-i-guess]

liking someone platonically is so embarrassing like. yeah i admire you. yeah i think about you all the time. yeah i look forward to every time i see you even if it's only for a minute. yeah it's all platonic and yeah i couldn't explain this because it'd sound romantic. fucking hell

[arynneva]

wait do people read first person stories and think they're the ones in the story???

Saw people talking about not liking first person, which is fair, but their reasoning was like "I would not do that" and I don't understand that mindset.

First person stories are still about a character. A character making their own decisions. First person isn't about you???? At least I thought it wasn't. What am I missing? I've always seen first person as just a more in-depth look into a character's mind and stricter POV. Not as a reader stand-in.

[callmebliss]

Y’ever read something and have understanding that has eluded you interminably suddenly stop, curl up, and snuggle neatly into a fold in your brain because a new way opened to it?

[inkskinned]

please i love you i'm begging you bring back suspension of disbelief bring back trusting the audience like. i cannot handle any more dialogue that sounds like a legal document. "hello, i am here to talk to you about the incident from a few minutes ago, because i feel you might be unwell, and i am invested in your personal wellbeing." "thank you, i am unwell because the incident was hurtful to me due to my childhood, which was bad." I CANT!!!!

do you know how many people are mad that authors use "growled" as a word for "said"? it's just poetics! they do not literally mean "growled," it's just a common replacement for "said with force but in a low tone." it's normal! do you hear me!! help me i love you please let me out of here!!!

[holographings]

someone on twitter said Imagine what s2 jayce would give to talk to s1 viktor just one more time. and someone had a time travel alternate dimension fic ready to go. and i read it. and now my face is being eaten by 3750 feral dogs i think

[willgrahamscock]

horrible news: you have to practice to level up your skills because it's unrealistic to think you'll be good at everything first try

[great-and-small]

My grandfather and my godfather (a beloved neighbor and dear family friend) had a long standing bet- for one dollar- about who would die first. Both of them being slightly pessimistic (in the funny way), they both insisted that they themselves would be the first to die. Any time my grandfather had a health scare, he’d gleefully call up my godfather to boast that he’d be passing “any day now” and he was sure to win the bet. It was a big family joke and they were always amiably sparring and comparing notes about who was in worse shape, medically speaking.

When my grandfather was in hospice care dying of liver cancer, my godfather was quite ill also. It took him great effort to make the journey to see his dying friend. As he came into the room, supported by a family member, he shuffled to my grandpa’s bedside and silently handed him a dollar bill. He was ceding his loss of the bet, as they both knew who was going first. My grandpa had been in quite bad shape for a while and was no longer able to speak but let me tell you he snatched that dollar with unexpected strength and literally laughed aloud. He knew exactly what the gesture meant and he couldn’t help but find the humor within the grief. It was the last time any of us heard my grandpa laugh, as he passed shortly after.

When I talk about my appreciation for “dark humor” I’m not so much thinking about edgy jokes, but rather the human instinct to somehow, impossibly, both find and appreciate the absurdity that is so often folded into the profound grief of life and death. When I tell this story I think it kind of perturbs people sometimes, but it’s honestly one of my favorite memories about two men I really deeply admired. I could never hope for anything more than for my loved ones to remember me laughing until the very end, and taking joy in a little joke as one of my final acts.

[mod2amaryllis]

i love being married to a straight guy. this morning we were parallel chilling and i glance at his computer and he's watching a drill fight tournament. as in, guys attaching drills to the same rod and turning them on until one breaks. to find the strongest drill. jose noticed me staring and rolled out of the way so i could see the screen. he knew every drill brand and told me their quality and price. i watched the whole thing without comment. the violence was enchanting. i never would have found this. he's a vector to an entirely alien, often beautiful, world.

[e32c-af6f]

A friend has recently ceased all contact with me. I am not angry about this. They felt I was a net-negative and cut me off like a gangrenous toe -- an approach I, myself, would employ. They did so without malice (no name-calling or similar pettiness) or hesitation. It was a single blow from a sharp blade that severed all connection for the sake of the wielder's well-being. That is fine. I feel stupid, but not upset or wronged.

The bit I am struggling with is that the feelings stirred up by this situation have prompted me to recall and dwell on other feelings originating from other situations. It is those recollections -- reminders of past occurrences -- that are making me sad.

An example is my immediate response to this lovely post.

In Minecraft, I am a "chop down a bunch of trees to make ladders and then use them while digging downwards in a 2x1 pattern to establish your mine" type of player. My (now former) buddy, on the other hand, has always built their shit as pictured above. Just endless shitty stairs. I encountered this terrible burrowing numerous times on the private server they hosted for us.

So, I see this post and I think, "Ha! I need to show this to -- oh, wait. No, never mind."

Which should be a fleeting, "Ah, bummer," kind of thing since, immediately after, I probably see a cat video and then someone pissed off about the English monarchy and then dudes throwing something at... something? What is that? Oh, no further info. Okay. Am I still in the "For You" section? Etc.

BUT I keep thinking about how long it took me to get out of that habit after my brother died -- reading things or watching things and then wanting to tell him about it. Making a mental note to bring it up the next time I saw him and then having to suddenly remember that I can't do that.

[theboxfort]

Peace and love

[demaparbat-hp]

He's never happy